A lot of successful, powerful women reach a point in their life where they realize they've been performing in order to get ahead. And if you're a man, this is for you too.
In the video at the top of this post, I talk about a new book by my friend Avril Millar that gives you the tools to stop performing and start living in a way that's aligned with your values.
The book is called Feral.
The full title is Feral: A Grown Woman's Guide to a Free and Ferocious Life. It gives you practical tools for dropping the expectations and the conditioning you absorbed on your way through the world of work. Then it helps you figure out how to live the rest of your life in a way that's aligned with your values, instead of with what your society, your culture, or other people expect of you.
Avril writes about the performance that women are expected to put on to achieve whatever version of success they're trying to achieve, in what is still a male-dominated world.
A lot of her ideas overlap with the principles in my book.
Many of us, regardless of gender, are following a script that somebody else wrote. Then one day we stop and realize that we never had any input on it.
I wrote about a similar problem in Feel like your life is drifting? Try this. That post is about the feeling that your life is happening to you instead of being something you choose, and it gives you a first step for finding out what your values are.
Reading Avril's book, whatever your gender, may be the whack on the side of the head you need to take stock of where you're headed, and to make sure it lines up with What Matters Most to you.
Everything gets easier when you know what matters most.
My new book walks you through all kinds of ways to identify (and use) your values, and it's available for pre-order now. It's called The Values Map. Grab yours today; I'll be very grateful if you do. ❤️
